Couples Coaching
Most relationships don’t struggle from lack of love. They struggle from lack of clarity.
Unspoken expectations.
Invisible roles.
Stories running quietly in the background.
And when those go unnamed, people start to feel:
Overwhelmed
Unseen
Or quietly alone in their own relationship
In my couples coaching work, we focus on making the invisible visible.
Because clarity doesn’t remove all tension, but it does create more capacity to lovingly hold it.
Coaching Packages
After our Free Intro Call and learning about your needs, I will propose a session package to best support you.
Relationship Playbook
Navigating a big change? Get clear on what matters most, your ideal day-to-day, and how to support each other better, all packaged in a custom-to-you slide deck.
Mental Load Rebalancing
Unpack the stories behind the labor. One person notices where to step up, while the other notices where to step back. The end result goes beyond a chore list.
Connecting Communication
We will slow down time to notice sensations in your body, the stories quietly running in the background, and reveal the unmet needs waiting to be said to one another.
All packages start with 6-9 sessions. I generally meet with clients once a week for one hour sessions. However, you can choose to use all of your coaching hours in the same week for a Relationship Offsite, as featured in the SF Standard.
Investment: My hourly rate for couples coaching is $200.
My unique approach combines traditional talking modalities, as well as somatic, mindfulness and visual techniques, with the belief that we must go beyond our thinking minds to create lasting change.
My credentials: Ex-corporate consultant. Seventeen years using design-thinking to guide teams through change. ICF certified coach. MS in Organizational Change from Northwestern. BFA from Rhode Island School of Design. Mom of two. Married for 10 years.
Get Help Navigating Big Change as a Family
Change can compound the stress around you. It can also be an opportunity to start new habits to support your most fulfilled life. Identify what changes might be on the horizon and I’ll work with you to tune in to your inner wisdom and gain clarity on what you truly want for your next chapter.
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Deciding on whether or not to have an additional child can feel like a giant purchase with a “no return” policy. It’s natural for couples to not feel on the same page about this big next step. Together, we’ll explore what each of you are truly seeking and what feels like a mutually supportive next step.
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You’ll be exploring locations, evaluating finances, and considering long-term implications for your lifestyle and family. I’ll help you get aligned on your priorities and needs to ensure this transition is supportive for both of you.
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This period involves adapting to new roles and responsibilities, focusing on financial stability, managing stress, and supporting each other’s growth. I’ll help you make strategic decisions to enhance your careers and ensure fulfilling outcomes.
Transitions
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Amid juggling the endless tasks of keeping a new human alive, supporting each other will be key to managing evolving responsibilities and ensuring both of you cope well. I’ll help you gain clarity ahead of time on roles, expectations, community support and how to manage stress.
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Having school aged children is a different ball game. As their independence increases, so does your own. I’ll help you explore how you want to spend this new found time and what new rhythms can be put in place so everyone in the family contributes and gets their needs met.
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Teenagers spark all kinds of new fears and doubts within ourselves as parents. I’ll work with you to build self-compassion practices so that the you can show up for your teen as the most grounded version of yourself.
Parenthood Stages
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Midlife can feel like a moment where we ask ourselves, “is this it?” The sense of possibility might be blocked by the daily grind of life. I’ll help you explore what you truly want and what steps you can take as a couple to come alive together.
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With the rising independence of children, you may be rediscovering personal interests, aligning them with shared goals, and nurturing your relationship. Through hobbies or travel I’ll help you focus on enriching your lives together and deepening your bond during this transition.
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This life shift can bring mixed emotions- excitement, anxiety, and even tension. I’ll help you address potential challenges, realign your goals as a couple, and discover ways to stay connected and supportive during this new phase of life.
Life Stages
What Couples are Saying
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Sami was incredible to work with--she guided us through some of our most challenging issues, helping us to dig deep and uncover what truly makes us happy and what holds us back. She also helped us create a plan to incorporate more of the things that bring us joy and satisfaction into our lives.
-Susannah
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Working with Sami has been game changing for our relationship and family. I continue to be blown away at Sami's ability to truly see and connect with both of us in our differences, help us see each other and honor each other's strengths in new ways, and set up tangible structures, roadmaps and prototypes that we are actively using to build the life we desire. Thank you, Sami!
-Moriah G.
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Sami was a genius at helping us work through the process, articulate unspoken goals, and synthesize creative solutions and dreams. It's been the best thing we've done together and for ourselves for many years.
-Carl B